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The importance of your communication skills.

How would you be able to parent if you were neither able to speak to your child, nor able to show him or her what to do? Whether your communication with your child is verbal or non verbal, it is

Helping Your Child Choose.

An embedded command is a part of a sentence that is marked out in some way. When you embed a command you are doing it so that, without him consciously realising it, you will help your child choose what you

Tone of Voice.

Parents often make the mistake of using the incorrect tone of voice when addressing their children. Often, worried about the child’s reaction, a parent will change her tone of voice from a command to a question. This will be perceived

Guide Your Child with Choices.

In the previous post (Developing a Positive Communication Style.) I mentioned that it’s a good idea to avoid putting your child in a position where he feels the urge to offer resistance. A double bind is a great way of

Developing a Positive Communication Style.

Have you ever stopped to consider how often we tell our children what not to do? The word “don’t” comes up pretty often doesn’t it? Surely a child would learn much more from being told what to do and how

Positive Communication.

There are two points I want to make before you get started on this category of the blog. 1. Every word that enters your child’s ears is processed by his mind. For him to make sense of what is being

Steps In Developing a Therapeutic Story: (Part 6) Add visual, auditory and kinaesthetic descriptions.

5. Add visual, auditory and kinaesthetic descriptions in the story to excite your child’s imagination and match his learning method. Finally, go back through the story you have created and begin to add detail that will excite your child’s imagination.

Steps In Developing a Therapeutic Story: (Part 5) Put it down in writing.

4. Unless you have a remarkable memory, put it down in writing. The story will comprise of three sections. The first will describe the problem state and what the main character is losing out on because of the problem state.

Steps In Developing a Therapeutic Story: (Part 4) Decide upon a story…

3. Decide upon a story that will define the problem and then define a solution in a way that relates to your child. Now the fun part can begin! You know what the problem is. You know what causes it

Steps In Developing a Therapeutic Story: (Part 3) What is causing the problem?

2. What is causing the problem? Understand why the problem exists. Educate yourself as to the problem and known solutions. Jimmy may have started to lie because he didn’t want to get into trouble. Possibly, in the past, Jimmy was

Steps In Developing a Therapeutic Story: (Part 2) Defining the Problem.

1. Defining the Problem. The first thing to recognise when defining the problem you wish to solve with the story is that what you perceive the problem to be, may not be the problem you need to address. Let me

Dealing With Young Children Through Stories. (Part 1)

Stories are often told to children by parents as a form of bonding and entertainment. The child will sit or lie down and listen to the story while the parent reads or tells it. This is great because the child

Developing Your Child’s Learning Methods.

You can develop the learning methods that do not come naturally to your child with stories. A seeing (visual) child can learn to become more comfortable listening when you describe a picture to him and link it to sounds in

Exciting Your Child’s Imagination.

Because a young child has this fuzzy boundary (critical faculty) between reality and imagination, one of the most potent ways to help your child develop seeing and hearing learning methods, is through stories. The subconscious mind is removed from reality

More About Your Child’s Learning Method.

A young child (baby, toddler) has a strong primary feeling learning method. He wants to touch, move and explore. As children move toward formal education they are required to move away from this learning method and more toward listening and

Understanding Your Child’s Learning Method.

Your child’s five senses feed information about himself and his environment to his mind which allows him his experience of reality. The information flows into his subconscious mind where is it processed as internal representations. These representations offer him a

Brainwave Function and Imaginary Friends.

Brainwaves. All humans experience four brainwave states that range from low frequency delta to high frequency beta. Men, women and children of all ages experience the same characteristic brainwaves. They are consistent across cultures and country boundaries. Delta brainwaves range

A Child’s Mind: Memory, Beliefs, Emotion and Behaviour.

  A note before we get started. Originally I wrote my posts using language that accommodates both genders. Example: “he or she”, “him or her”. That became extremely laborious so forgive me that I only use the male gender “he”